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I am Shannon and my husband is Chris. This is a place to share and process struggles related to miscarriages, eating disorders, and Shannon's struggle with sexual abuse. We have found that joy, exempt of Christ, is often bittersweet in this life. We look forward to heaven where sweetness will abound and bitterness will be gone.







Wednesday, December 1, 2010

Distanced because I miscarried?

There is one person in my life that I am frustrated with. She's not one of my best friends. She's not part of our family. But she was one of my close friends and she is also pregnant. When we were both pregnant, it was great. Since I had the miscarriage, she's distanced herself from me. She's the only one who has done that. I can't decide if it's because she doesn't want my pain to contaminate her joy or if she doesn't want to her joy to increase my pain by talking to me. I'm not sure. The thing is two of my very best friends are pregnant and they have been fantastic about the whole thing. They have shared with me but also empathized with my pain and yet, I have been delighted and able to rejoice with them over the little people growing inside of them! What a blessing life is! Anyhow, I just thought about this today and I got a wee bit frustrated. I know, I know, you are probably thinking I shouldn't let it get to me....and I'm not! But I needed to vent and this is MY blog (lol) so I decided this was the place to do it.

~Shannon
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  1. Sarah JoyDecember 1, 2010 at 4:58 PM

    I don't know who it is you are talking about, but I'm going to guess she is nervous that her joy will make your pain more great. I know I've had that fear...I'm glad I've been able to talk to you despite that fear. I'm so thankful that you are strong enough (with Jesus leading you!) that you can also share in my joy - and neither of us have to feel bad about that. But I think she's just scared she will hurt you.

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  2. UsDecember 2, 2010 at 10:22 AM

    Sarah Joy,
    I am so blessed that you and Renae have been so wonderful and open. Your sharing has actually led to my healing. I feel so connected to you two because I am a mom now and I was pregnant with Samantha even though she lives with Jesus.

    My guess is that she is nervous but I also know that this person has a tendency to avoid things that make her unhappy so I feel there may be a small part of that going on. Anyhow, though, the hardest part of the whole thing is knowing that she is pretty much the only person who I had been close to who hasn't been supportive and available during this grieving process. So I feel as though I've lost that friendship connection and I don't know how to or if I can go back. Samantha is such a big part of me now---and I feel like our relationship was exempt of that during this process!

    I am so grateful for your friendship and I love rejoicing with you. So excited about baby B! :)

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